This blog program allows you to select a “category” to identify what’s going on in your life. Currently the category is: “2021 Covid-19 – too many cases.” Actually it’s now 2022.

I just read a news release that said: “Number of COVID-19 patients in hospitals reaches record low in US. The number of patients hospitalized with the coronavirus has fallen more than 90% in more than two months, and some hospitals are going days without a single COVID-19 patient in the ICU for the first time since early 2020.”

For that reason, I’ll change the category and hope covid concerns are behind us.

In the afternoon we went out for lunch then shopping (primarily groceries). Our evening was spent watching the Kingston Trio at the North Clubhouse. Actually it was a knock-off group, but they put on a great show.

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Kelly left on Sunday, April 3rd.

Before she left we crammed in a lot: Little Harbor on Wednesday, the Racetrack and Fiori’s on Friday, shopping and dinner out on Saturday.

I sure was sorry to see her leave, but I knew she needed to get him to her husband and job.

Kelly and I have played bingo two times and yesterday we went to the Air Show (which included a boat trip, nice lunch, and air show). We’ve gone to Beef O’Brady’s two times and the South Clubhouse for lunches a couple of times. Tonight it’s a Kingston Trip show at the North Clubhouse. I did cancel the trip to the zoo which we’d planned for Tuesday. Glad I did. I’m just not good at walking and I knew that the zoo would require a lot of foot travel.

The weather has been great. One rainy day (when we went to Beall’s shopping). Other than that it’s been pleasant temps and sunshine.

Wednesday we’ll go to the race track and Ken will drive.

Sadly Kelly’s visit is over half done but we’ll still have lots more fun.

Kelly and I have been having a great time together. We’ve eaten out, gone shopping, headed to karaoke, watched movies, shopped some more, had cart rides, visited the farmers market, and talked a lot.

Today is a bingo day at 11:30.

Weather has been perfect except for today. It’s raining and doesn’t appear to be clearing up any time soon. (A perfect day to play bingo.)

Tomorrow Pat is having us over to play dominos and go to dinner at Glory Days restaurant on Big Bend Road.

I must admit, I’m worn out. I’m not used to staying up late and being so active. I slept pretty good last night but I still feel exhausted.

I’ll discuss with Kelly, but I’m thinking we may cancel our next Tuesday trip to the zoo. It’ll mean a lot of walking and I’m just not up to it. (I will have to rent a motorized scooter if we do go.)

Kelly got here last night. Her flight arrived before midnight but it was something like 1:30 before she got here.

We stayed up and yaked until after 3:00 a.m. I’m up (it’s 8:45) but Kelly’s still in bed and Sophie is really worn out. My little fur child played and guarded until the wee hours. She’s hardly moving this morning.

I don’t expect to see Kelly for a couple hours. We were not only up late but she’ll be contending with the time zone difference. At 9:00 it’s only 6:00 in California.

She had a long day yesterday. I called her at 5:30 a.m. her time because I’d checked her flights and for some reason old (cancelled months ago) flights showed up instead of the current ones. It alarmed us but she got confirmation on the correct schedule and her departure wasn’t until 2:00 p.m.

Last night we reviewed the stuff we’re scheduled to attend. Today and tomorrow are quiet days. We can do what we like any time. Actually we’re not locked into anything (except the cruise, and the show at the north clubhouse).

In four days, Kelly will be arriving. I have lots to do before she gets here. Her room (especially her closet) is a mess. It smells stuffy so I need to open the window to air it out. Ken said on Thursday he’ll help me open the futon, but I want to wash her bedding and towels to make sure everything is fresh.

I’ve been trying to understand why I’ve been feeling so rotten. I think it might be the prescriptions I’m now on. The “statins” have the side effects that I’m experiencing. My stomach pains are worse after I’m in bed for a while. Coincidentally I take my ‘scripts just before I go to bed.

I’m skipping the statin prescription and I’ll see if I feel better. I’ll also cut down on fried, high cholestrol foods.

I haven’t seen Ken at all because I haven’t felt up to dealing with company.

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With all the pandemic protections I’ve been using, I have avoided catching any cold virus or the flu. I hate to admit it but being more aware, handwashing, and masking when in public has paid off.

After a great birthday Friday, I had a lousy night’s sleep. Don’t know what caused it but I had awful stomach pains. Saturday was not much better. I just took it easy. Went to bed very early and today I feel back to normal. I guess I just needed to adjust to being 80.

Ken is due back today but I have a feeling I won’t be seeing him. I haven’t heard anything from him. I bought two tickets to a St. Patrick’s Day party but hopefully I can find someone else to go with me. I’ve talked about going to the Follies with Pat but it’s iffy.

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Ken called. He thought my birthday was today. He’ll be back sometime tomorrow but since I’ll be really busy, he won’t stop in until Tuesday.

Yesterday was birthday… my 80th!!

Most of the day was lazy and restful. I vowed to take it easy, and I did!

At about 3:10 I headed to Pat’s house to pick her up. (She’d said she wanted to take me out for my meal.) Together we went to King’s Point’s Annual Garage Sale. It was ok, but after a lot of walking, my back acted up and I was pretty miserable by the time we left.

Fish dinner at Fiore’s was excellent. I’m glad that’s where we went for our dinner.

When I took her home, she had me come in to open her gift. (The dinner would have been plenty.) She gave me a lovely purse. It is perfect!

I hurried home. Jay Ungar and Molly Mason had a special event planned for the evening. (It had started at 7:00. It was 7:10.) Their event was a Waltz-A-Thon, because 3/4 (March 4th) is “waltz time.” Many musicians had submitted waltz videos so the three hours were filled with lovely music from all over the country.

About an hour in, Jay and Molly played a tune written by Molly called “Cabernet.” When Jay announced it, he said, ‘Sharon Skaryd, listen up.” Half way through the tune, it changed to “Happy Birthday.” They all sang along. “Happy birthday, dear Sharon.” What a wonderful surprise!!

I can’t imagine a better birthday even if I was alone a lot of the time.

On the eve of my 80th birthday, I was worried that I’d be alone, but as it turns out I have a fun time planned.

Pat invited me to lunch or dinner (my choice). Coincidentally, Jay and Molly are hosting an Ashokan special event: a Waltz-A-Thon. March 4th, can be shown as 3/4. That’s waltz time so they’re going to have three hours of waltzes featuring not only Jay and Molly but others who have submitted a video of a waltz. Even one of my favorites, Junior Dougherty, will be playing. Obviously I can’t miss it since last night Jay even mentioned (kiddingly) that it’ll be an evening to celebrate my birthday. So I’ll be waltzing alone and with Sophie from 7:00-10:00 but I’ll have lots of my music friends watching with me.

At 4:00 there’s also a Kings Point Garage Sale in the Vets Theater. I am picking up Pat at 3:30 and we’ll go to the sale for a short while then we’ll go to Fiore’s for a fish dinner. I should be back home by 7:00 for the Waltz-a-Thon.

My new job as President of Nantucket V has created an opportunity for interaction with more folks. I’m doing more and enjoying it.

On Monday, the 7th of March, I’m volunteering to man a table for the Emergency Squad at the hurricane preparedness lecture. I work at the Emergency Squad that morning so I can’t go to the King’s Point offering of this important information which is in the a.m. I’ve attended for a couple years and don’t want to miss it so I’ll go to the Methodist Church. I can watch the presentation while I represent the Squad.

What a relief!!

Shopping for the Michigan Club’s pizza party this Saturday has pointed out that prices have gone up. Not only that, but lots of shelves are bare.

I wanted to buy Vernors but there’s none in this area. Things have really changed.

Yes, inflation is a reality and shipping has been difficult. It’s all part of the problems caused by the pandemic. Lots of businesses have closed. Here in Kings Point, we have smaller activities.

Gas prices are near record. Thank heavens I don’t drive much.

But despite all the problems our area has grown and we have huge traffic problems. Why everyone’s flooding the Florida area isn’t really clear. Apparently folks think of us as the place to be. Texas is also growing, but I can’t imagine that they are as poorly prepared as Florida has been. For one thing, Texas is larger so the open spaces can accommodate more. Our roads are crowded but our hiring pool is down. Every piece of undeveloped land is considered for new building.

This week and next will be stressful.

I am the chairman of the Michigan Club pizza party to be held the 19th. The Covid situation has reduced the numbers of attendees. Instead of 250 tickets sold in 2019, we’ve only sold about 80. It’ll work but there’s a lot of guessing going on. (Cans instead of barrels of beer.)

Saturday is the Sportsman’s club’s Day at the Races. I bought Ken a ticket so we’ll be going for the day. He can drive my car so I can learn more about its operation.

Next week there’s a dance on Tuesday and a Sportsman’s Club meeting Wednesday. The pizza party is Saturday.

Sometime within the next ten days or so, my brother, Denny is supposed to show up here. He’s driving down with two guys and assurs me that he’ll stop in and take me to dinner.

After the pizza party, I have to dive into my new job as HOA President of Nantucket V. Our first meeting will happen on Monday, the 21st.

After that I can take a deep breath.

My 80th birthday is March 4th.

Kelly is scheduled to arrive for her two week (plus a day or two) visit.

It seems like an over-whelmingly busy time, but once Kelly leaves stuff will slow down. (At least it looks that way now.)

I’m really chilly, or I was. I put on slacks, a medium weight robe, topped with a sweater. Yup several layers. I’m finally warming up.

It’s been a cold, rainy day and I didn’t turn the heat up. 71 is too cold in here.

I understand Evie died in New York early this morning. She’ll certainly be missed.

Unfortunately Covid had separated us. She didn’t believe in the vaccinations and I felt compelled to avoid her. But we did speak frequently on the phone.

Her stroke last month was devestating but she was the Energizer Bunny and I truly believed that even at her advanced age, she’d survive this as she’d survived several bouts with cancer and a bad fall.

She was one of the people who helped me with John’s memorial gathering here in Kings Point.

It bothers me that her family took her Facebook page down immediately. I have lost several friends who were on Facebook. They are still on facebook friends list. As years go by, their birthday reminders keep them in my thoughts.

If you wish to view here funeral service, there’s a link here: Evie’s February 7th Funeral Service

I have my new Dell Inspiration computer and it’s working perfectly. I can’t complain.

Sean Crenshaw worked all afternoon yesterday and restored all my programs and even got my Epson tank printer working. My most important files are on Lotus and I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to pull them up but he was totally successful. Not much had happened in the time I was down so I was able to have everything up to date in a few minutes. I’m happy. I did lose some money on my investments but at least now I can see all my accounts.

Sean even figured out how I can watch my Jay and Molly concerts on my television set. It’ll be great.

Yes, the experience was a bit pricey but half the price of the Microsoft Surface I bought in 2018. I’m definitely not complaining. I’m glad I hired Sean to do the work. It sure saved me a huge headache.

Our forecast is for a low tonight/tomorrow of about 30 degrees!! It’s already been chilly but with the wind it’s bitter cold. The rugs on my patio are all blown up and the Spanish moss is dancing.

I had a busy day yesterday. My three dominos playing girlfriends came over and I’d made them apple crisp. It was ok (but I got it too sweet). We ended up at Fiore’s for fish.

Haven’t seen ken for several days but that’s ok. I’ve needed the time to get my cell phone set up, my old computer working as good as is possible. I’ll be getting my new computer Monday afternoon. (That’s the morning Sophie goes to the vet for her physical.)

Life is good. Sophie and I are doing fine.

I’m the new Nantucket V president which means work, but maybe we can make our home owner’s association into a fun friendly neighborhood.

I keep hearing about folks who have developed covid. Not only Dave, my son-in-law, but also my cleaning lady and Irene, the friend who had a great Holloween party. I am careful but it feels like everyone eventually catches it.

More problems. My backups didn’t perform as I’d hoped. I won’t worry too much. There are several things I can do to make the programs work. (Or at least I hope so.) Not much of a point working on the Lenovo computer, only to have to do it again when my new Dell comes next week.

My second Aerogarden came and I planted lettuce in it. It’s not large and fits where I hoped it would.

The weather’s turned cold!! Really cold. (Almost freezing.)

I am learning to separate myself from my computer. I don’t have a choice.

January 20th was a bad day!! Everything went wrong!!

I did have a pleasant evening with Ken, but the rest of the day was lousy!

Woke up and discovered that Spectrum was having TV problems. After calling them they suggested I reboot the system by unplugging it. About 15 minutes later I had TV.

Not long after that, I started up my computer … or TRIED to start up my computer. It said my “profile” wasn’t available. Basically that meant that Windows (my operating system) wouldn’t start. I worked on it. I would guess I struggled for about five hours!! What ended up happening is it wouldn’t recognize any passwords so I couldn’t start up anything. I was stuck. Several hours later, I called a computer repair guy (Shawn Cremshaw). He came over immediately and quickly found my hard drive was shot. He was able to get a copy of most of my data off my drive and put it on my backup so hopefully I can get everything (or most everything) restored.

We talked about good computers and I ended up having him order me a new one. The Surface Pro I was using is very expensive but it has lots of problems. He (Shawn) said he prefers a cheaper Dell so I went with his recommendation. I’ll have a new computer in a week. In the interium, he was able to work with my older Lenovo which is actually an excellent machine. He found ways to “speed it up” and I’m in good shape. The backup from the Surface Pro is accessible from the Lenovo so I can work on everything and it’s purring. Still slower than the new Dell will be but not bad.

But that wasn’t the only stuff that went wrong. A light bulb broke off in the socket.

I received my new white rug and Ken helped me lay it. IT’s lovely but Sophie promptly peed on it. It cleaned up nicely but she was in the dog house.

Now when listing the stuff that made the day problematic, it doesn’t sound so bad but everything seemed to go wrong.

When Ken came over, he brought a really good pizza and dessert. We enjoy conversation and a very pleasant evening. I hadn’t taken time to eat anything all day, so I really enjoyed dinner.

This morning I had a meeting with my financial guy, Rick Tuberosa. He told me to spend more. He said, what you spend, I can make back. Do more spending. So I left his office and went directly to Club Car of Sun City, my favorite golf cart shop and bought a new golf cart. Won’t be here until April or later.

I ordered a red one so folks aren’t going to notice that I have a new one, but it has lithium batteries that don’t need to be watered. What a relief. It also has a different drive system so it’s peppier.

This afternoon after I got home, I decided to buy myself a new cell phone. The one I ordered has an exceptional camera. My current one’s battery has been running down too fast. It used to go a couple days, now it can’t make a day. I will get a $230 trade-in credit for my old one. The latest greatest is a Samsung Galaxy S21 Ultra 5G 128GB (Verizon). About this cellphone, it says, The highest resolution photos and video on a smartphone. Galaxy’s fastest processor yet. A battery that goes all-day—and then some. First ever S Pen compatibility. A striking new design. It’s an Ultra that easily lives up to its name. The whole transaction took a loooong time. I ordered it and then noticed my ($230) trade-in wasn’t included. I had to delete it and start over then call Visa to make sure I’d only be charged for one.

Today I went through about $20,000!!!!!

On Facebook this question was just asked: “DO YOU NEED MONEY?”

My answer surprised most.

I said, “No, I’m fine. Hope someone who needs it gets it.”

My bills are paid. My home, condo, golfcart, and all my possessions are fully paid for. I have ample money in reserve to take me through any emergency.

I purchased a long-term insurance policy in case I need nursing care. I have a household monitored security system.

I send funds to my daughter when she needs anything and I donate to causes I believe in.

I buy what I want when I want it without thinking twice.

I have a cleaning crew that keeps my condo polished, and a couple handymen that will do little jobs for me.

My condo is modest. It’s 1,540+ square feet, modern kitchen, two bedrooms, two bathrooms, a two car garage, dining room, storage room and huge great room. There’s a back patio overlooking a pond and a screened-in side lanai.

The garage not only holds my Honda CRV and my upscale golf cart, but a laundry area for my washer and dryer, and a work bench. There’s also an extra refrigerator and small freezer (loaded with Omaha steaks).

I live alone, but have a cute cuddly dog who adores me. We’re both in good health.

Yes, there are a couple projects that would improve my condo, and I’ll do them eventually. I like having something to look forward to.

Last year I had all the windows in my condo replaced with windows that should withstand the worst storms that come through the area.

What more could I want?

Yes, my car is a 2020 but it only has about 1,200 miles on it and if I decide to replace it, I have the cash funds available.

I’m still mentally sharp and love a good book. I go to dances and I’m agile enough that I am occasionally asked to dance.

My wardrobe fills my closet (and I have some outfits I haven’t even worn), in fact some things are in my guest room closet. I have collected a lot of jewelry over the years. My mother’s items are now mine and I have purchased several (lots of) 14kt pieces.

The room near my kitchen has been made into a storage room. It’s filled with floor to near ceiling cabinets so I can store extras, Christmas ornaments, and unused small appliances. I keep stocked up on kleenex, meds, toilet paper, and more.

Rick, my financial advisor does a great job for me. (Last year my investments gained over 20%.) He has things set up so I receive a generous monthly amount to spend as I see fit.

Now I ask you, why would I want more?

Life is good!

This has been a week for changes/improvements.

I bought myself a new Kindle Paperwhite. Yes, the old Paperwhite still worked, but the improved visuals make the newest Kindle desirable. It came today and was immediately (with no effort on my part), connected to wi-fi and loaded with all my previous purchased books.

I also bought a wall plug which works great with Alexia. I am using it in my bedroom. I plugged my bedside lamp ito it. Now when I go to bed I can say, “Alexia, turn off/on the plug.” It’s great. (Especially nice when I get up to go to the bathroom.) I’m going to put one in the guest room and one in the nook by my gold loveseat.

My Aerogarden Farm 24XL is up and running. I have planted several varieties of lettuce, tomatoes (yellow and red), and basil. I’m hoping in a couple of weeks I’ll see growth.

Sophie didn’t help matters. She took three of the pods out of the Aerogarden and played with them. Hopefully they’ll still grow unless she lost the seeds out of them.

Pets, it turns out, also have last wishes before they die, but only known by veterinarians who put old and sick animals to sleep. Twitter user Jesse Dietrich asked a vet what was the most difficult part of his job.

The specialist answered without hesitation that it was the hardest for him to see how old or sick animals look for their owners with the eyes of their owners before going to sleep. The fact is that 90 % of owners don’t want to be in a room with a dying animal. People leave so that they don’t see their pet leave. But they don’t realize that it’s in these last moments of life that their pet needs them most.

Veterinarians ask the owners to be close to the animals until the very end. ??It’s inevitable that they die before you. Don’t forget that you were the center of their life. Maybe they were just a part of you. But they are also your family. No matter how hard it is, don’t leave them.

Dont let them die in a room with a stranger in a place they dont like. It is very painful for veterinarians to see how pets cannot find their owner during the last minutes of their life. They dont understand why the owner left them. After all, they needed their owner’s consolation.

Veterinarians do everything possible to ensure that animals are not so scared, but they are completely strangers to them. Don’t be a coward because it’s too painful for you. Think about the pet. Endure this pain for the sake of their sake. Be with them until the end.

Back about 1980, a renouned photographer took quality, artistic, black and white nude photos of me. They are nudes but definitely not pornography. These artistic and lovely prints are stored under my bed.

They are large, matted, works of fine art.

When I turn 80, I’m going to put at least one of the two up in my bedroom. (I’ll start with the one that doesn’t show my face.) Except for my cleaning folks, no one goes in my room anyway.

I’ve been thinking a lot about this. They should be displayed. I’m proud of them. I don’t want to shock anyone. According to definition, pornography is intended to stimulate erotic emotions. These envoke an appreciation for my past body and the artist who took them.

I’ll be 80. Am I wrong?

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Note about the photographer: Dr. S. Preston Jones is a renouned photographer. He’s been acknowlege as one of the best in Michigan. For many years he has been affiliated with the Midland Center for the Arts in Midland. He’s famous and received many awards for his awesome talent.

Last year I wrote this:

What I (Sharon Skaryd) learned in 2020: I learned that I can live truly alone as long as I have my dog to talk to. I discovered Zoom which is a great way to see folks at a safe distance. I learned that there are alternatives to shopping in stores (delivery and Amazon). I found that there are really only a few things you really need: a good bottle of wine and a supply of toilet paper. As a single lady, I found I’d rather be alone than with someone I’m neutral about. I found that for me throwing away leftovers is wiser than storing them in the refrigerator only to eventually toss them anyway. I discovered that TV movies repeat and repeat and repeat. I found that everyone responds differently to being isolated. It got easier for me but for many it has been really tough. A good book is a great way to relax before bedtime. I found that wearing makeup, bras, shoes, and matching attire is unimportant as long as you’re comfortable. I found that the news can be depressing so it’s better to avoid it. (What will happen will happen without my input.) I found it’s a good idea to occasionally make a list of stuff you have frozen. Review the list when you can’t think of anything for dinner, otherwise you’ll forget what’s there. Online services like banking and even online concerts are truly valuable. Talking to yourself is completely ok. When I feel I need to “get out” for fresh air, there’s nothing better for me than a nice golf cart ride. Sometimes I pick up a carry-out lunch and park in an isolated spot with a book and enjoy my “picnic.” Yup, this is my list of what I learned in 2020. Make your own list. You’ll be surprised at how wise you’ve become.

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Now it’s 2022. Here’s what I learned in 2021: Sophie is even more important in my life than she was as I went into 2021. She’s learning how to control me. (Example, she knows if I pick up my phone and the carry out menu from Palm Court, I’ll soon be going to the South Clubhouse to pick up my dinner and if she looks eager enough, I’ll take her with me.)

I’ve gotten closer to my daughter, Kelly. She’s my treasure.

But I was wrong about a few things:

I don’t need a bottle of wine. I really don’t sleep well if I have more than a small glass.

Having stuff in reserve is great, but I forget where I put items and I often buy more without realizing I was already well-stocked. (That reminds me I need to locate my supply of toilet paper. I know I have some stored away. And I must remember where I put my air purifier filters.)

I make lists. I list what stuff I have available for meals and side dishes. I list what I need to accomplish. I even list stuff I that might forget. There’s a long detailed list for Kelly to help her when I’m no longer available.

I’ve discovered I do better with less wine. I still love a glass with dinner but I usually replace it with a glass of ice water.

My back’s gotten worse. I should walk more and take Sophie. She’d love it. Many nights I use a heating pad to get comfortable and bring on sleep but I hope something can be done.

So I’ve discovered nothing profound in the past year.

I’ve found that I may not even want a special guy. With a guy-friend comes responsibility and I’m doing fine on my own.

Maybe I’ll have a great 2022 but I’m not holding my breath.

I’m very, very comfortable financially. (I have over seven digits of wealth and it’s growing.) Thanks to Rick from Ameriprise.

My life’s on hold.

I don’t know why. The pandemic hasn’t helped but even before it moved into our lives, I was pausing and waiting . . . . . I don’t know what I’m waiting for but I am on hold.

I keep thinking I’ll do stuff after . . . . . but I can’t tell you what the after is. I just pause and think I’ll start up again when the time is right. It never is.

I’m at an age where I should be hurrying to get everything done, but I’m wasting time.

I keep thinking I’ll “organize.” I will purge and know where everything is. It doesn’t happen.

All the Covid fears and restrictions are being renewed. There’s a new variant and the number of cases have skyrocketed. The holiday has obviously contributed as folks got together. I fear we’re going to regress to the shutdown period of a year ago.

My New Years Eve plans were to go to my regular senior dance at St. John the Devine but I realize that attendance is miniscule (only 30 tickets sold) and it’ll be mostly couples. It isn’t worth the risk. I decided not to go. I had promised to give Pat a ride and I won’t let her down, but I won’t go to the dance. I wouldn’t feel right dancing with guys (if any asked me).

Pat’s guy will attend so she will have company.

I just heard on the news that almost 50,000 Florida residents were found to be positive when tested yesterday! That’s the highest one day total ever!!!

Tonight I’ll be entertaining Pat, Connie, Deb, Michele, Donna, and Donna’s husband, Larry. I have lots of munchies (cheese ball, cheese spread, meatballs, various types of chips, dip, nuts, and for beverages we’ll enjoy wine, beer, cherry juice and soft drinks.

I plan to have the TV showing a fire in a fireplace and music playing. Hope it all flows perfectly. (Note: I couldn’t get the firplace to play.)

On Saturday, casual friend Joe will stop over to enjoy the leftovers.

I am almost ready for tonight’s crowd. I love to show off my holiday decorations. The tree and lots of battery operated candle lights will be the only illumination. The food spread will be on the bar.

For a change, I feel good.

Hope I’ve thought of everything. I wish I had bought more crackers, but I probably have enough. I’ll wait until I get everything ready and maybe make a quick trip to Winn Dixie.

Because of my wi-fi problems and trying to get my printer, the thernostat, garage door opener, and the Alexia lights to work with the network. I’ve been having to study. Seems like wasted time but life would be easier with everything like it was. I need to re-learn a lot!

In addition to learning about networks, I decided to improve Sophie’s diet so I read up on Farmer’s Dog high quality food. (Sophie needs to slim down which should be helped with new food.) The initial order arrived this afternoon. (More studying was required.) I will start her on it tomorrow.

A week ago I also ordered a hydroponic growing system: Aerogarden Farm-24-xl. It’s a large 24 pod unit which should allow me to grow lettuce, herbs, and tomatoes. It came last night. It will fit nicely on the lanai near the front door. The learning curve to master this project requires a lot of youtube videos and reading a lot. I still am not sure how many pods I should put in the unit. Looks like I need to allow room for the plants to spread out.

I haven’t even taken it out of the box because I wanted Rick to assemble it but he’s not available so maybe I’ll tackle it.

So much to learn!!! I’m worn out!

I’ve been craving John’s apple bread, my apple crisp, the baked cinnamon nuts we made together, my mom’s stinky steak, my famous spare ribs, lasagna, French breakfast puffs, my oatmeal cake, John’s rice pudding, my cheese ball with nuts and pineapple, and other old favorites.

I have the recipes and could probably do any of those but they make too much.

I bought the ingredients for French onion soup and a pot roast. I just don’t get motivated early enough because their cook time is too long. (The slow cooker over-night suggestion for carmelizing method of perparing the onions sounds best.)

The stinky steak is best with a sirloin steak and marinating the steak overnight.

I haven’t purchased the apples and don’t have enough nuts. French breakfast puffs and rice pudding make huge helpings.

One of these days I’ll fix one of them.

I’m a member of several “dating” websites. (Match.com, OurTime.com, and another one or two.)

I’ve even met a few of the fellows who are here in Sun City Center. I’m surprised that a lot of the guys are looking for a sexual partner and they want it immediately! No getting acquainted, no gradually getting more intimate. First date expectations.

I’ve been alone a long while and my wonderful husband’s health limited our activities. I just assumed that slowing down was natural. Apparently I was wrong.

Two years into the pandemic and I’m so used to being alone that I rarely venture out.

I went grocery shopping today and tried unsuccessfully to get my wi-fi settings to work with my lights.

My A/C is purring but now the outside temperature is going to cool down.

My Spectrum wi-fi modem was replaced Friday the 17th by a Spectrum tech. No big deal, right? Well, I didn’t realize what replacing a wi-fi modem meant. Anything that used a wi-fi connection had to be updated.

It was fairly easy to get my Alexias to work again, but I had problems updating my garage door opener, my thermostat and my printer. Oh, yes, and my Alexia controlled lights no longer work. I spent four hours Friday and didn’t get any of them working as they worked before the modem was replaced.

I finally got my thermostat to work through my phone on Saturday (yesterday). Somehow, when I was working on my thermostat it got stuck on HEAT!!! It was 81 outside but 90+ inside.

It never got below 85 in here. Although I went to bed, I just couldn’t sleep. At 3:00 a.m. I got up and went to the great room because it had better outside air flow. With all the windows open it finally cooled down. I went back to bed about 6:00 and did sleep about an hour. By then it was a comfortable temperature inside.

I checked and still had no A/C. Before it heated up too much, I called KPW (Kings Point Warranty) which covers all my appliances including my A/C. The guy came almost immediately. He worked on the thermostat and said the “heat” setting was all that worked so it never would have cooled. It did cool quickly and I was happy but about an hour after he left, the heat came back on. (I’d opened the thermostat to make a copy of the settings and apparently that messed things up.) The installer guy said I may need to replace the thermostat. I am careful not to touch any settings.

I was exhausted from the heat and it took a while to cool the place down. I actually took kind of a nap.

It’s working now. I can change the setting with my phone. Temperature is 74 and I’m happy!!

Still no printer, no garage door when controlled by my phone, no lights except manually. I can get by. I may call the computer guy but I’ll keep trying.

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Tuesday – The lights are now working through my phone. Yea!! Only took about five hours! Now I can turn them on/off from bed. (When I turn in fairly early, I always leave at least one great room light on for Sophie. Later I turn it off. Now I can go back to that routine.)

Every year I make Christmas cards using Hallmark software for family and a few friends. It takes a while because I don’t do the same card for everyone.

I started Saturday and had most of them done by late afteroon. Sunday I planned to print them out but my printer wouldn’t run correctly. I did everything I could think of. I even reinstalled the card-making program. I wasted HOURS!! Finally it looked like everything was working but the printer wouldn’t print red. It was discouraging. I followed all the instructions but nothing would allow the printing of red. I did a
“Print Head Cleaning,” “Print Head Nozzle Check, and “Power Cleaning.” The last step took quite a bit of time and I was instructed not to print for 12 hours.

This morning it worked perfectly. I printed about two dozen cards and got the ones to California ready to be mailed tomorrow. (Of course I hand write out the envelopes so that takes time.) I should also be able to do the Michigan ones within the next day or so. I hope to have them all completed and mailed by mid-week.

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Today, Wednesday, December 15th I finally finished the last of the cards and will drop them in the mailbox on my way to the clubhouse.

My place is looking very Christmasy-fied! The tree’s decorated, the palm tree has lights, the holly placemats and table runners are out. I have my small glass table covered with candles. It’s all very festive. I need to do a little tweaking to get things the way I want them, but it’s nearly finished.

Rick assembled my tree late this afternoon. Now I need to fluff the branches and start decorating it. I will take several days. There’s no rush. I also need to get my holiday projection working on the front of the condo. I don’t feel very festive but little by little I’ll do it.

I wish I was planning a party or some form of entertaining to look forward to. Maybe I could invite some couples to come for a few glasses of wine and munchies. Maybe Jerry and Pat, Rachael and Harry, Gary and Darlene, Donna and Larry (neighbors), and singles Connie, Kay, Joe, new friend Harrison, and any others I can think of. I’ll think about it.

Frequently I’ve stubbed/broken a toe (or two). I did it again last night in my bedroom. I caught it on the leg of a chair and it really hurt! It throbbed for several hours but by morning it was just sore and I felt fortunate that it wasn’t as bad as it has been in the past. I’m a little gimpy but I’m pretty comfortable.

I have no where to go until Tuesday (to a singles dance) and Wednesday I’ll be at the Squad.

Tomorrow Rick, my handyguy will be coming to put up my Christmas tree. I have all my ornaments out but he’ll only put up the tree. I’ll decorate it.

I need to move my harp, palm plant (artificial) and put some small statues out on the patio. My small glass table will be relocated between my bar and the TV set. That will empty out the corner where the tree will go. I want it like it was last year.

My last night date was a very nice guy with a fantastic car, but I feel he’s not a good choice for me. He wanted to have a political discussion (anti Biden) which I could see wouldn’t fit my point of view so I insisted that the subject be changed. He came in for a short visit but left early. I wouldn’t mind being casual friends.

Since I consider myself a “non cook,” I was amazed that the Thanksgiving dinner I prepared turned out great!

I’m glad I did it. I proved to myself that I am capable of prepping a feast!! Everything was perfect. The turkey may have been overcooked but it was still moist. It just fell apart. All the side dishes were flawless. Only the dinner rolls were a disappointment. (Just not exceptional.) The sweet potato cassarole, scalloped corn, and cranberry sauce/salad were all great. The dressing was Stove Top and the mashed potatoes were Bob Evans prepared, so I can’t take credit for them, but the addition of gravy (although a little to salty) made them very acceptable!

My back was really in pain but I forged on and didn’t complain. I did take frequent breaks to let it rest. When they left, I was worn out. I did some work in the kitchen before bed, but left a big mess for today. I will finish up shortly.

I have signed up to attend a tree lighting at the park near the front gate this afternoon. I will then go on dinner DATE with a guy I met on one of the dating apps. His name is Harrison. I don’t think we’re really “match” but he seems like a nice guy. He just bought a place in Sun City Center.

He’s taking me to Fiore’s for fish. I suggested 6:00 pm but I’d forgotten the tree lighting so I need to call him and suggest closer to 6:15-6:30.

Ken’s been calling me regularly and we’ve had nice conversations. I do miss him. He’ll be back about a month from next week.

Thanksgiving has been kind of a non-holiday for me since John died. He always prepared a feast but I haven’t put forth any effort and last year’s carry-out from the South Club was awful!!

Anyway, I volunteered to fix dinner for two friends who had no where to go. I have most of the groceries purchased and a time-table ready to follow. I hope it turns out like John’s would have.

We’ll enjoy an eight-pound turkey breast, mashed potatoes, gravy, dressing, cranberry sauce (with nuts, strawberries, and other good stuff), jellied cranberries, scalloped corn, rolls & butter, sweet potato casserole, and relishes. I left the preparation of the dessert to Connie but I will have a Dutch apple pie in the freezer if it’s needed.

But why did I volunteer? This is work!! I have detailed everything I have to do and it will be ready by 2pm Thursday. I don’t want it to look too difficult but I never claimed to be a good cook.

Betcha it’ll be better than last year’s disaster.

I’ve been really disappointed to find that my quiet/reading spot has been demolished to allow for the construction of an office building. The spot is the only tranquil wooded area in Sun City Center. I generally go there at least once a week for lunch (which I pick up at Mickey D’s.) I bring a book and just enjoy the tranquility.

But today I went back to the scene of the demo. I drove down the cart path and into an untouched area. I actually found that the back area is still quite nice. I should have taken a photo and I will next time. It is a lot like my previous spot. You can see a photo of the earlier area wooded quiet are which has been destroyed.

The new place has the same look and feel. Through the trees I could see and hear the highway (301) but the beauty makes up for the shortcomings.

I had my Covid-19 booster (Modera) on November 2nd. Tomorrow it’ll be two weeks. Since the shot, I haven’t really felt good. Not bad enough to really knock me out, but enough so I keep hoping that tomorrow I’ll be better. I’m queasy and uncomfortable. Especially at night my system seems to knot up and I’m very uncomfortable. (Gassy and painfully in my low belly.) I keep thinking in “one more day” I’ll be over it.

I’m sure it’s all linked to side effects from the booster. I’ve even wondered if maybe I have Covid. I kinda doubt it. I don’t believe I’ve been exposed and I’ve had my shots.

At this moment I feel fine, but last night at midnight I felt rotten. If I can get a good night’s sleep tonight, I hope to feel better.

Tomorrow there’s a senior dance at St. John the Devine. I’ve been trying to figure out what I’ll wear. I want to look super, but I’m just too chubby. I will try to manage a decent appearance. I am really trying to lose weight unsuccessfully. When I feel this rotten, I have a tendency to eat more. As soon as I feel better, I vow to strictly adhere to my new diet plan (a blend of Weight Watchers and Intermittent Fasting). I’m sure I will succeed.

When Ken visited we drank quite a bit of wine.

I’m realizing that frequently, if I have more than one glass of wine, later (especially after I go to bed) I won’t feel good. I do love a glass with dinner, but it’s not worth suffering stomach pains later.

I am stocked up on Cherrish (cherry juice) so that will become my beverage of choice. A couple of bottles will go with me to each BYOB dance. (I will need to plan ahead because Cherrish is really hard to open so I’ll need to take the equipment I bought to get the cap off or I can do it at home, then screw the top back on.)

We had a nice few days together. We went out to dinner a couple of times and enjoyed each other’s company but he’s back “on the road again.”

I accept the situation this time. He is worth this compromise. He will miss me and it’s not like he’s gone forever.

I’ve been doing GREAT with my financial advisor (Rick Tuberosa). I’ve gained 20% since the December 31, 2020. Ken lives on his income and he likes nice things. I can understand why his income is important to him. He has assured me that next year he’ll only be gone November to the beginning of January which is bad enough, but I admit I got used to being alone and kinda like the freedom of not having someone to answer to.

We had a few days together (starting last Tuesday). It was fun. This morning, we went together to get his RV which was being repaired. He drove my car there and I drove back alone while he drove his RV. I didn’t mind being behind the wheel of my car at all. I was very comfortable. I think I’ll drive more places.

I was back home by about 11:00. He came over about 2:30 and left about an hour later. He’s on the road now but he promised he’ll pull over and sleep when he gets tired. I do worry about him driving so far alone. He’ll be at Calaway Gardens.

There are a couple problems when he’s around. He is here nearly every evening and leaves at 10pm but that means I get less sleep. It’s harder to stay close to my lady friends.

But I will be ok and I admit that he is excellent company. I can’t deny I look forward to his return in January.

Ken’s back. We bumped into each other at Beef O’Brady’s yesterday and last night he was at the singles dance. I had missed him.

We’re planning to watch Jay and Molly’s Wednesday night concert together tonight. I need to get a bottle of wine for us to enjoy. I’m looking forward to conversation and getting reacquainted. It’s been almost FIVE MONTHS.

I really don’t want to get used to having him around like we were because he leaves again Sunday and will be gone until early January.

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As it turned out, I am not feeling well. The vaccination area on my arm is hot and swollen and I’m feeling beat. According to the CDC, those are side effects which are normal signs that your body is building protection.. I’m just not feeling up to par. When I told Ken that, the suggested waiting until tomorrow to come over. I’m relieved. I’m just feeling rotten!! I don’t need to entertain him tonight. Hopefully tomorrow I’ll be better.

Anyone who knows me knows I don’t like to cook. In fact sometimes I’ll go hungry rather than prepare my own food, but I think I have found a solution.

I love a quality steak and actually a lean steak with limited side dishes is fairly low in calories. And steaks are easy to prepare.

I’m still watching my weight. I’m back on Weight Watchers points. I wasn’t losing weight on the fasting program so I’ll create my own rules which combine the Weight Watchers with Fasting.

I ordered a big box of frozen Omaha steaks. In the box were bacon wrapped filets, chicken breasts, premium beef patties and 1″ thick sirloin-type steaks. I figure I can prepare very tasty meals easily.

Today I’ll try one of the sirloin-type steaks, a baked potato and make a green salad with vinegar for dressing.

I plan to eat only within an eight hour period from noon to 8 p.m. During those eight hours, I’ll consume a maximum of 22 points. I’m determined to lose about 25 pounds. I lost a lot while watching points back about 2007 (but I only allowed myself 20 points). Now I’m on 22 points. Today I will wait until about 2:00 for my one main meal. If I’m careful, I should drop those pounds. Sure hope so!!

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I slightly over-cooked the steak on my gas grill but it was very good and certainly enough! The baked potato was too much and I’m still munching on the salad. An excellent meal and I certainly don’t feel like I’m dieting.

I even had a small glass of merlot. Most of the time, I don’t care for such a heavy red wine but with steak it was perfect!!

So far today I’ve only used about 12 points. That leaves me with 10 more if I am craving something.

I find my plans can easily change. For several days I’ve had this afternoon at the Moose lodge in Ruskin marked down for playing Euchre at the Moose in Ruskin. I even knew what I’d wear. But it’s been raining hard with more storms predicted and I realize I don’t want to go out and dodge the downpour. Instead I can play Euchre tomorrow night at KP’s North Clubhouse or play on line.

I’m really flexible. I do need to go grocery shopping but only if it clears up today.

If I don’t go out, I have lots to eat (frozen shepherd’s pie, second-day homemade chile, chicken glop makings with biscuits, Italian sausage (frozen) and kraut, frozen chicken breasts, chicken kiev, and a frozen pizza.)

I could also go to Beef O’Brady’s for their Monday burger special.

I love being able to change my plans without consulting anyone. I just do it!

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Today’s rain comes and it goes. It was just pouring a few minutes ago. Now the sun is out and there is some blue sky. Betcha it rains again before the afternoon is over. The power even flickered on an off a while ago. It’s just NOT a pretty day.

If I get ambitious, I can do laundry. It’s piling up. Right now, I’m content just taking it easy.

On October 12th I got the senior version of this year’s flu shot. I guess it’s more potent.

I went to the Funfest on the 16th and felt rotten for several days after that.

Is it possible that it was a reaction to the flu shot that caused me to be under-the-weather? I’m now thinking that’s a distinct possibility. I’ve never had a reaction before, but every year the formulation is different. I’m ok now.

I am realizing that I often feel crappy the day after a few glasses of wine. (White zin affects me most.) I’m learning that if I skip the wine for Cherrish (cherry juice) I sleep better and feel better the next day.

Since Saturday I’ve been worn out and not up to par. My struggle at the Funfest and all the walking really took a lot out of me.

Today, after grocery shopping I went to the Sportsman’s Club meeting I had to go out to my golf cart for water I’d brought. The walk in and then out to get the glass and then back in, really sapped me.

Last night I went to a boring dance. Didn’t enjoy myself at all. Left early and stopped at Karaoke Night at the South Clubhouse.

I could have gone to a singles dance tonight but decided I just can’t. I’m going to bed early. I have to be up by 8 a.m. because my A/C is having its seasonal check-up.

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I had a rough night. Exhausted so I went to bed about 9:00 but I had really bad stomach pains until after midnight. After at least one bathroom trip I finally slept through the night. Today I’m ok. It scared me but I think it was just gas. Glad it “passed.”

Today I went to the “Sun City Center Funfest” which is an event held annually. It’s outside over a fairly large area and features SCC’s clubs. I was lucky because I found a closeby golf cart parking space but I realized too late that walking around the event was just too much for my back. I sure wish I’d brought my wheeled walker. My back and neck spasmed and I had to find a bench to sit down. The pain never really passed but eventually I got up and headed to my golf cart. Why hadn’t I brought the walker? I won’t do that again. I actually thought and worried about the amount of walking I’d be doing but I was too proud to use the walker. Boy. I wished I’d had it!!

It’s said that pride goeth before the fall and the cart would also have made me more secure because I was worried about falling. Sometime I want to go back to Busch Gardens and I’ll definitely take the walker to use there.

I had my handyman (Rick) put my furniture back on the patio today. It’s been stored away in the garage and on the lanai since the hurricane threatened in July. The storm missed us then but it was so hard to move it that I left it in case another storm came by. I am so glad to have it back where I can use it. I can now access my outdoor grill which was blocked by the lounge chairs and tables.

It didn’t take Rick long. I will have to tweak some of the pieces into their exact places, but everything I need to do from here will be easy.

Yes, the Amvets truck came past and took my donations. Glad they are finally cleared out. Now I need to work on my garage.

Later I discovered that the water from my power washed patio had caused my three digital clocks (that work with two wireless remotes) to stop. I worked on them for an hour or more. (New batteries, resetting, etc.) Got them to work and then they stopped again. By late afternoon, I finally had my three digial clocks running and accurate.

Looking back, the time just vanished. I wasted another day.

I was up early to put out the boxes I’d prepared to donate. I was told I should have them outside my garage by 7:30 a.m. Since I feared it might rain last night, I put them out this morning.

The boxes were heavy and big. I about collapsed while moving them (got really sweaty and weak) but after I took a short break, I was able to finish up.

After I finish I completed my morning chores (bed making and coffee). I’m still not dressed but so what?

I called Spectrum, my TV provider, and subscribed to Tampa Bay Lightning’s complete hockey season. I figure if I let guys know I have all the games, I’ll be in demand as a date.

How come every time I buy a new item I have to learn an instruction manual or a new app? I’m truly behind!!

Examples:

I got a new Nikon camera ages ago. Can’t use it because I don’t know how.

I bought an electric tooth brush months ago. I’m using it frequently but I know I need to read the manual so I can do it right.

I bought a water pik and I don’t use it because I need to read the instructions.

But today I ran into another similar situation. I bought a bathroom scale. Easy Peasy, right? No!! I have used it once but I don’t think I’m doing everything right. It saves the previous numbers and gives me BMI and lots of other information.

I’m so behind! I must promise myself that I won’t buy anything else with a learning curve! I need to catch up.

Yesterday I attended a four hour Original Dulcimer Players Club zoom meeting. FOUR HOURS!! I had to take several trips to the bathroom, but I was attentive. I certainly wouldn’t call it wasted time. I enjoyed seeing old friends on Zoom.

I spent a lot of my time today working on my new “diet”. It took several hours. I finally decided on the meals I’d consume in the times alloted. I had 3 scrambled eggs for my brunch and I planned on a chicken caesar salad (minus dressing) from the South Clubhouse. Problem was I waited until 5:30 to start calling to place my order. I called for over an hour but never got through. A whole hour wasted.

So my time flew past this weekend. I don’t feel much was accomplished. I’ll do better this week.

I got up this morning and proceeded with my usual routine. I made the bed, got dressed, started my coffee, and then like any weekday I turned on my TV. I was looking for my game shows, but SURPRISE! it’s NOT Monday. It’s Sunday. I had my days mixed up.

Good news!! I started on a new diet plan (Intermittent Fasting) and combined with some Weight Watchers information, it seems to be working. I’ve lost 2 1/2 pounds in a week!! When I eat, I watch my “points.” I want to keep my diet under control. I eat at noon and about 6:00 p.m. My Intermittent Fasting plan is called 16/8. I have nothing after 8:00 p.m.

I am really careful. I’m not overly hungry at noon, and I eat enough to be able to last until my 6:00 p.m. meal.

My life has gone from quite quiet to sincerely silent. I hired a handyman to do some powerwashing and his equipment malfunctioned so the two days he would have been here have passed. Feels like I can’t even pay a worker to visit me.

I have given up the dating apps. I realize most of the guys want a boody call. I’m not ready to go to bed with anyone I barely know. I would rather be alone than try to fight off a guy who makes me feel cheap. I would be open to a gradually affectionate relationship but when a stranger expects to bed me, I am firmly opposed.

My days are routine. I get up by 8 a.m., get dressed, make my bed, make coffee, turn on TV and watch game shows and Lifetime Movies. During the day I play on-line euchre, answer emails and usually post to my blog. I typically head to bed about 8:00 p.m. and read or watch TV until about 11 p.m. I wake up frequently but a few pages of reading puts me back to sleep.

Some days I do laundry. I have a few other chores I try to stay up on. I keep my condo tidy, I try to make sure Sophie is well cared for. Of course I have to think about meals and about once a week I shop for groceries. I have been slowly organizing my closet and eventually I want to get rid of boxes piled up in the garage that are full of items to be donated so I can do more out there.

With the virus numbers still too high, I’m afraid to go to my card games or dances. Maybe next week I’ll go back to karaoke but not dance with anyone. (Since I’m rarely asked, it gives me a good excuse to be a wall flower.)

I do have an ODPC (Original Dulcimer Players Club) annual meeting on Saturday (on Zoom). On Tuesday I have a hair appointment, and once I have my patio cleaned and the furniture back in place I can get some sun, especially since it’s not as humid and promises to be even better as we get into October. Maybe with less humidity, I’ll even go to the pool. It’s still pretty hot today (87 degrees) but should soon be more comfortable.

I never anticipated my life would be so dull. Surprisingly I still have a good attitude, but my total solitude is all too obvious to me.

A lovely friend, Maryanne Simon, died of Covid-19 on September 2nd. Her significant other, Bill Owens, called me yestrday to advise me. She was a wonderful friend. I tried to find her photo (I know I have several of her). They came to our Christmas Eve party and we went to their beautiful home. Since John’s passing I hadn’t contacted them, but I did think of them often. I hope Bill contacts me. He sounds like he’s overcome with grief right now but I hope I can help him.

August 28th I posted that there had been 631,440 total deaths in the U.S. but now on September 26th (a little less than a month) the deaths are up to 706,073. Looks like the last few days, Florida numbers have gone down a little. Maybe things are actually improving. I’m not risking my health yet, but I am relaxing a little. I’m anxious to get my third shot. I’ll feel better because I know the protection has gone down a little.

I have a good friend who has been there for me since about 2008. She’s a sweetheart but she hasn’t been vaccinated and she feels strongly that her “faith” will keep her safe.

She’s been up north since April but she’s planning to fly back to Kings Point in a week or so. I don’t know how to handle the situation. I don’t want her in my house, and I won’t go to her place but I know she’s planning to visit and do things together.

I could just insist that we wear masks but that’s not 100% and I am afraid to be around someone who I know hasn’t had their shots (especially someone who has just flown in). Yes, I was with her when she was here before she left in April but things have changed. I know of more and more folks who have had it.

I know my daughter Kelly is living with SIL Dave who doesn’t believe in the vaccinations, but she’s protected herself and California is or was safer. There aren’t as many strong variants raging there.

I have tried everything to get my friend to recognize the importance of the inoculations but she’s firm and she resents my comments and has told me to “back off.” We were together a lot before she headed north but now I know some of my “protection” has worn off because it’s been many months (since February) when I had my shots. (That’s why they’re recommending a third booster.) I am afraid of her.

Since she left, I’ve discovered that several folks including my realtor (who had her shots) have tested positive. The shots are not 100% but better than no vaccination. Even a neighbor has had Covid and she is very cautious because she works at hospice.

Working at the Squad, I feel I need to be extra careful. I am required to ask folks who enter our Squad building if they’ve had the shots. If they haven’t I’m supposed to avoid close contact. I’ve stayed in most of the time for over a month (since I realized how the new variants are breaking through) I feel like I’ll be betraying my safety if I ignore the precautions.

But I don’t want to lose my lovely friend. Maybe, after she’s here, if I send her that last paragraph, she’ll understand that I don’t have a choice. That doesn’t mean she’ll get the shots (I know she won’t), but at least she’ll understand that I can’t be around her. And maybe the virus will fade away. Let’s hope.

I’ve been concerned about how Ken and I would re-unite, or would we? He was supposed to be home last Wednesday. Haven’t heard anything from him. I’d hinted a lot that I wasn’t happy. Maybe he caught on. Maybe he’s solved my concerns.

Or maybe he isn’t home yet. Out of curiosity, I just went passed his place and there’s no sign of anyone.

Every afternoon it rains. Not just a drizzle but a lot of the wet stuff.

Yesterday we lost our power for a couple seconds. You wouldn’t think a couple seconds would matter but it took about 20 minutes for my TV and internet to be back up and running. What a pain!!

My back lawn (the view I see all the time) is like a field that needs thrashing. The sandhill cranes could get lost in the high grass.

I’m only about 15 feet from the property line and although they mowed that 15 feet, everything beyond that is ugly. I see only the tall stuff. The mowers did take one swipe down the cart path but that just makes it look like a partly done haircut. It’s ugly. It was better before they did anything.

I keep thinking that the mowers will come back, but the heavy rain has stopped them. Hopefully it’ll happen eventually.

I watch the forecasts because I don’t want to get caught in a heavy downpour. Today I need to go grocery shopping. Of course I want to use my golf cart. I think the best opportunity is after 3:00 but before 6:00. (But it keeps changing.) I’ll continue to watch. (Right now 4:00-5:00 has the lowest percentage.)

Most women complain when their males don’t put the seat down but I complain differently. I want the top (solid) lid closed before you flush. (Male or female, it doesn’t matter.) You can read about the reasons for closing the lid here: https://www.self.com/story/toilet-plume-poop-spray

It’s so easy and it looks better.

Twenty years ago America lost its innocence. Four hijacked planes killed thousands and changed our nation.

That day I attended a meeting at Bay Medical Center. I substituted for the administrator of our hospital and joined four or five administrators of area hospitals in Bay Med’s board room. Our plan was to finish plans for a lithotripter mobile service to go to the hospitals that were in attendance: Midland, West Branch, Bay City, Flint, and two Saginaw hospitals. We had met regularly for several months and this was the conclusion of the plan for the lithotripter.

While I was on the way, I had my car’s radio on and about 9 a.m. I heard that a plane had crashed into the World Trade Center in New York. At first the report was that it was thought to be a small private plane but soon the information was corrected. A second commercial jet had hit the other tower. By the time I got to the meeting, everyone was aware and a TV set had been turned on in the board room.

Even with the chaos, the meeting continued. We watched the images of the twin towers’ destruction. I had my back to the TV set but the expressions on the faces of those who were on the other side of the table told the tale. It was horrifying.

When the towers fell (at 9:59), the room went silent.

After hurrying through the agenda items, the meeting adjourned, we all hurried to our respective hospitals. I arrived at St. Mary’s to a scene which resembled the one I’d just left. In the building where I worked, the conference room’s TV was on and the staff was gathered around watching the historic events unfold.

As I recall, all the staff left early because nothing was being accomplished anyway.

At home, John was watching the frightening scene. In the morning when it had first started, he’d been picking grapes but a neighbor, seeing him busy picking went out to tell him about the situation our nation was facing.

I am a member of two dating apps. Here’s my profile from one of them:

In the past. I’ve run an on-line business, a performing music club, and I was a hospital planner. I created websites and for over 20 years was an officer and organizer of the world’s largest hammered dulcimer festival. My late husband and I performed (musically) a great deal in Michigan and here in Florida. I love dances and socializing. I read a lot and also do a little writing. I’d like to find a nice gentleman who’d enjoy Florida’s lovely sunsets with me. I don’t have expensive tastes but I’d love go out to dinner with a sweet conversationalist who also enjoys quiet, relaxing evenings. I have been in Florida since 2002 and full time since my husband died three years ago. I volunteer at the Sun City Center Emergency Squad and I’m secretary and webmaster of the Kings Point Michigan Club. I am a healthy, very financially secure lady who loves life. I like watching TV or live sports and playing cards or other games with friends. My closest companion is my friendly little dog. I hope to find a compatible fellow with similar interests.

I turned a new leaf. I’m not concentrating so much on finding a special guy. Instead I’m cultivating both male and female friendships. I will let them know that I will always be there for them. They may have already known that, but I’m going to go out of my way to confirm that I’m a reliable resource for them.

I’ve already called Phil and Joe. I’m taking Connie to lunch today, and next week Pat will get my attention.

When Evie and Michelle get back, they’ll know I am reliable and always one of their besties.

I’ll invite neighbor Donna over for the long-promised glass (or two or three) of wine.

It’ll be so enjoyable to be friendlier. I’ll be putting less energy toward finding that one special guy.

And surprise! Maybe I can convert Ken from being my special guy to being a good friend (when he’s here). He’s nice. I’m just going to be firm that we aren’t ever going to be any more than special friends.

A single guy who plays euchre with me has invited me to visit him today. It’s a new experience for me because I usually invite males to my place and don’t go to theirs until we’re really acquainted. At least I feel I know him. He’s always popular and pleasant. He lives in a very nice area in Sun City Center. I’ll drive my car (not my golf cart) because rain is threatening and I need the GPS.

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Later:
Our date was ok. I like him, his place was lovely, but somehow I don’t feel that he’s a good fit for me.

While wearing a mask, I did go to the Emergency Squad yesterday and early this morning my masked cleaning folks came in, but those are the only times I’ve been around anyone. I hope I’ll stay well. So many folks now have Covid-19. It is actually worse than it’s been since the beginning of the pandemic. Even after my two vaccinations and wearing a mask, I still don’t feel safe.

I had an invitation for a free filet mignon dinner for next week. Turned it down. I’ve missed my euchre games, several dances, a Sportsman’s Club meeting, and all activities at the South Clubhouse. The Emergency Squad’s annual appreciation lunch was also canceled. I feel a need to stay safely inside.

According to today’s CDC statistics, 631,440 total deaths have been reported from Covid-19 and that’s no small number. I’m glad I’m still here and healthy.

Yes, I have a concerned daughter in California, but if I get Covid-19, I’m pretty much on my own. I wish I had someone special in my life who would respond if I got sick. I don’t.

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Continuing that thought….

That’s why I can’t continue my relationship with Ken. When I was with him I cut out most everyone else. Then he left June 28th. He said he’ll be back about September 15th. He’ll be here until about November 18th. His absence will continue until about January 7th. That’s just too much time to be totally alone with no one to call on. I need to cultivate friendships and hopefully find a male friend who, in exchange for friendship and time together, will be there when I need him.

Even if I have no guy ever, I need to cultivate friends who will care about me.

I figured it out. When counting the scheduled days, Ken will have been gone for 129 days. That’s more than 1/3 of the year.

Wearing a mask, I did go to the Emergency Squad yesterday and early this morning my masked cleaning folks came in, but those are the only times I’ve been around anyone. I hope I’ll stay well. So many folks now have Covid-19. It is actually worse than it’s been since the beginning of the pandemic. Even after my two vaccines and wearing a mask, I still don’t feel safe.

I had an invitation for a free filet mignon dinner for next week. Turned it down. I’ve missed my euchre games, several dances, a Sportsman’s Club meeting, and all activities at the South Clubhouse. The Emergency Squad’s annual appreciation lunch was also canceled. I feel a need to stay inside.

According to today’s CDC statistics, 631,440 total deaths in the U.S. have been reported from Covid-19 and that’s no small number. I’m glad I’m still here and healthy.

I posted a facebook question. I asked if anyone else is displeased by the Progressive Insurance ads.

I went on to say, “In a series of supposedly funny ads, Dr. Rick warns students in his class that they should avoid things their parents do. The “parents” are undoubtedly the age of most of us here in our part of Florida. I find it insulting. Yes, some of our generation have problems knowing about pdfs and pronouncing “quinoa”. Some use speaker phones in public places but I was always taught that making a joke of the shortcomings of others isn’t funny nor appropriate.”

I asked, “Am I the only one who cringes when I watch these advertisements?”

Quite a few people posted that they too were unhappy with the direction those ads take. They are an insult to older folks.

Even my realtor friend, Trudy Province, has tested positive for Covid-19. I’m definitely isolating myself. I’ll only go out for stuff regarding the Squad and maybe to get groceries.

Ken’s attitude has turned me off him completely. He thinks it’s all a political hoax. Well, I don’t agree and I think attitudes like that are increasing the numbers. I won’t be with him when he comes back on September 15th. I am sure he’s guessed that I have erased him from my life.

The way I look at it is if he truly feels that way, he won’t be careful and I don’t want to risk exposure to the virus. Yes, I’ve had the inoculations but I could still get sick. Some folks who’ve had the inoculations have died. Not many but some. I don’t want to add to the statistics.

Because of the hike in covid-19 numbers, I’m missing activities I’d normally enjoy. My only outings are to the grocery store and to the Squad.

Today I am skipping the Sportsman’s Club meeting. I’ve already missed Monday euchre and tomorrow, although I’ll be at Emergency Squad, I won’t go to the Whistlers for more euchre.

My biggest challenge was turning down an invitation to a fantastic six course dinner next Wednesday at Freedom Plaza. I would love a filet mignon meal but I won’t risk being exposed to the virus. (I understand two bingo players at our North Clubhouse tested positive so it’s definitely in the area.)

Next Tuesday is a senior dance but I won’t go because I would feel safe dancing with anyone. The close interchange of air is just too risky.

I don’t mind being inside. The view is lovely. Folks go past in golf carts and on foot. I don’t feel totally isolated. I have internet friends and a cellphone to talk to people. I get by.

I’m hunkered down inside. The news about the virus is frightening. Sophie doesn’t mind and I’ve found stuff to keep me busy. Besides my back has been acting up and sitting with a heating pad helps.

I think I’ll pass on euchre until the news reports that things are settling down. (It would be difficult go to Whistler’s this Thursday anyway because it’s an Emergency Squad day.)

When I hear that people are refusing to have the Covid vaccination, I wonder what the world would have been like if requiring vaccinations had been an option when we were young. Before going to school we were required to have the small pox vaccination. And there were the polio shots we all got when they were available. Tetanus, polio, and small pox are almost eradicated and there are more similar diseases that are no longer a threat. Why aren’t folks recognizing the importance of inoculations? Back in the 1950’s I knew of two children who died of polio before the shots were available. I had a good friend (George Horny) who suffered his whole life because he contracted polio years before he could be inoculated. My generation wasn’t given a choice. Shots were mandatory! But I’m so glad because who do you know who has had polio, tetanus, or small pox in the past 30 years? Those were killers a hundred years ago. They’re gone now because science successfully found a way to make us safe. Our current scientists are better educated. I trust that they will make us safe from Covid-19, if we give them a chance.

I’m guilty of frequently procrastinating. An example occurred today.

I had an appointment for Tuesday at 10:45am at the DMV office to get my handicapped placard. I was trying to figure out how I could get the medical form signed by Dr. Marquez. I could drop it off Monday, but would it be ready so I could pick it up in time for the DMV appointment?

Then I though, why? Why am I rushing?

So I canceled my Tuesday timeslot and rescheduled the DMV appointment for Friday the 13th at 10:45. There’s no rush. I will still need to call the doctor’s office tomorrow to make sure I can get the necessary signature before Friday. (If I can’t I will reschedule again.)

I don’t need to hurry. Does it really matter if I have the handicapped placard on Tuesday or Friday? Or even a week or a month from now? Nope!!

Tomorrow I want to play euchre at the Ruskin Moose. Other than my scheduled time volunteering at the Emergency Squad (this week on Wednesday) I’m really not locked in to any specific appointments. I want to see the Ruskin euchre folks so I’ll definitely go tomorrow. Tuesday evening the KP Euchre Club also meets and Thursday I have a standing invitation to play with the Whistlers at their house. I can be flexible because no one depends on me. I can cancel or postpone appointments.

Maybe that’s one reason I’m enjoying this time away from Ken. I am not locked into any commitments. I’m my own boss.

Sadly the Covid-19 virus has seriously become more active again. The numbers are really high. (Higher than they were at the peak a year ago.) Masks are being required again and activities are shutting down.

I won’t be doing to the senior dances until the statistics look better. I won’t go to the South Clubhouse for karaoke or Rock N Rendezvous until Jubilee opens and we have more room. I will be wearing my mask more of the time.

And Ken…? Well, I haven’t decided. I have a month to resolve my feelings for him. He’ll be back about September 15th.

I’d still like to find a full-time gentleman who’d want to be in my life. I’d be his lady and be there for him and he’d be available for me. I sure don’t like this “part-time” business. But I don’t need someone who gets too involved. No marriage. No living together. But lots of time together.

A couple of weeks ago I installed a sound bar on my greatroom TV. It has a fairly small remote which is the only way to control the volume and bass/tenor settings.

This afternoon I lost the remote. I looked high and low. It wasn’t any place.

My couch has two built-in power recliners with a piece that can be raised behind the head.

I reached down the sides of the couch and looked under it. I worked well over an hour looking for it. I opened the sofa to the maximum recline position and heard a clunk! I could tell from the sound it was the remote. Of course it was difficult to reach it, but with a yard stick and tongs, I finally moved it to a position that I could reach. It’s out. I’m happy.

I did find that Sophie’s hair collects under the couch. I need to use the vacuum and clean it out.

I am relieved that the remote was found. I need to promise myself to always look for stuff like that asap. It becomes harder to locate it, if time passes.

Since about March, pandemic restrictions have been lessening. Knowing that most of us are vaccinated has created a feeling of safety. Sadly the new Delta variant is now interrupting that feeling.

Last week we had our first “in person” Sportsman’s Club meeting in Veterans’ Theater. It was great to be able to talk to other members. We’ve been having senior/singles dances since April and I felt safe enough to be close to men who asked me to dance.

At the Emergency Squad we have been letting folks in minus their masks and we have been able to reduce our temperature taking and sanitizing.

Shopping without a mask has been routine. Hardly any folks wear them now. I’ve gone to a restaurant for dinner without a mask. I’ve been comfortable.

But things are reverting to the time when the restrictions were strictly enforced.

I fear we’re going back to that. I don’t know if I fear the pandemic or the restrictions more.

There was a report today that they expect the new strain to peak in September. That would be less than a month from now. I will try to stay safe until then.

Actually I heard today that those of us who have been vaccinated are probably pretty safe, but folks like me who are vaccinated are contracting the new Delta variant and, once they have it, they can spread it to others. They may be absent of symptoms but they are still a carrier. That’s why we’re wearing masks again. Not for us, but for others.

So I’m stuck inside until the numbers turn around. If that happens fast, we can resume our progress toward normalcy but it’ll depend on the numbers.

Last week (ending July 22) we had 5,168 NEW Covid cases in Hillsborough County.

Hospitalized in Hillsborough:
14-DAY CHANGE
+158% higher!!!

May 4-Aug. 2:
of the tests run, the positive cases equaled
8%

The good news: Here in Sun City Center where folks are older our statistics on being fully vaccinated are pretty good. 74% of the over 65 demographic have been vaccinated.

I’ve kind of written Ken off because of his attitude toward the virus.

Tonight a man from “Our Time” dating website called me. After we’d talked for a while, I realize he feels like Ken. He thinks the virus is fake. He’s very firm in his feelings.

NO WAY will I start a friendship with a guy who has that attitude. It’s hard enough with Ken who I really care for. This “Our Time” guy means nothing to me so it’s best that I leave it that way.

I want to avoid Ken. I don’t want to argue and I know I can’t change his mind. We’ll just disagree.

I’ve created a new category title which will be assigned to all my posts (until I update to yet another new category). The previous category was established at the beginning of the pandemic more than a year ago. It was “2020 Covid-19 Cronavirus.” The new title is “2021 Covid-19 – too many cases.” Yes, there are too many.

New cases in Hillsborough County are again reaching record highs. Masks are recommended when indoors even for those who have had their vaccinations. No more shopping bare-faced. I’m sure more restrictions will soon be put in place. I hate to think of the safety steps Kings Point will need to reinstitute in the clubhouses. We’re finally feeling comfortable. Dances and club meetings are resuming. Will we go back to being buttoned up?

The threat of the delta variant has everyone (well, most folks) rightfully concerned. It’s more easily transmitted but thank heavens having the vaccines has lessened delta’s impact. Fewer deaths among those who have had the shots.